Feeling empowered in the workplace and in all life situations can feel impossible at times. Recently in my life I have experienced so many situations in which I have needed to feel strong and radiate a certain power: job interviews, house interviews, important client meetings. Situations where you are not just being judged for what you are saying but for your presence, and where your body language can make it or break it. When in a position which you feel that you are not qualified for or that you feel you don’t deserve, your demeanor often will give out that very impression before you even have the chance to prove yourself.
One thing i always tell myself… if you are going to do something own it and, honestly, this really helps. If you make a decision, own that decision. If you take on a new challenge, own it. and if you feel that you are not supposed to be in a certain position, just fake it. As American social psychologist Amy Cuddy says, “Fake it till you make it” and then “fake it till you become it”.
She is such an inspiring woman, known for her research on stereotyping and discrimination, emotions, power, nonverbal behavior, and the effects of social stimuli on hormone levels. Her words really had an impact on my day-to-day life and my perception of myself. She suggests power posing, and changing your posture so that your mind follows your body. According to Amy, “tiny tweaks can make big changes” and i couldn’t agree with her more.
Watch her inspiring Ted talk below, and see how you can change your own impact on certain situations by simply faking it.